I have been watching Grey’s Anatomy for over nine months now and I can honestly say that it is a decent show. I know it might not be a “christian” show but neither are all of the songs on our playlists. I was watching a particular episode a couple of weeks ago and it moved me in a way that I learned something from it. It was Episode twelve in season six. It starts when the pit which is the emergency room area of the hospital. It was flooded with patients and one guy comes in with an injury and he tells the doctors that he is a pastor. I thought ok where is this going, he slipped and fell while running at the same time as he was sending text messages that’s why he was injured. Why was he freaking out like that?
When Dirty Laundry Is Aired
This particular pastor was having an affair and made a mistake. I am totally against affairs and I do not support anyone who thinks an affair is right. But this pastor was in one and it got out to his congregation. Could you imagine what they said about him? How they treated him? Have you ever had anything like this happen to you? Maybe it wasn’t an affair maybe it was a lie that you told and the truth came out or maybe you watched something online and people found out about it.
When the congregation found out, not a single one of them came to the hospital to visit their pastor. Obviously he was hurting not just physically but spiritually and emotionally as well. In his lowest point his congregation who he thought loved him wasn’t even there for him. While in the hospital he received many text messages saying things like, “We don’t want you” and “You are not a good person.” Another pastor called the man and instead of offering advice and counseling screamed out, “You should never step foot in another church again let alone preach!”
How To Handle Dirty Laundry
I was shaking my head the entire episode because of how this pastor was being treated. The people who he thought were his friends were in reality his enemies. The people he thought had his back and would be with him through anything were actually his biggest critics. This man had no one all because of one mistake. I agree that what he did was completely wrong and unacceptable but that is just not how you treat someone no matter who they are.
Someone’s lowest point is when they need the most encouragement
When we go through our lowest point, notice I didn’t put “if” but when that happens, we need our community to come and stand with us. To guide us, to help us and show us grace. Even as something despicable as an affair still deserves forgiveness and grace. After all, Jesus knew every sinful, stupid foolish thing we would ever think and do and he still chose to create us anyway.
“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassion never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:22-23)
When something like this happens we should run to the rescue and help not run and grab pitchforks waiting to take a stab. That’s not the right thing to do and I don’t think it’s very biblical. This world is a “no-mistake” world meaning if you make a mistake you are finished when Jesus is the complete opposite. Jesus has love and grace that never fails and he will never give up on us. The people who Jesus healed in the bible are the exact people that no one would be around and would shame. From Matthew the tax collector to the woman caught in adultery there is explicit grace like no other from Jesus. Let’s try our absolute best to imitate this.
- How have you notices outcasting of people in the church?
- What ways can you switch your thoughts to show more grace?
- Would you want people to show you what you’ve shown them?
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this article. If you are someone who has been outcasted by the church I want to personally say that I am sorry you’ve been treated like that. If you are someone who is doing the outcasting you should really evaluate how you handle situations. If I can every help you in any way please comment and never forget the best is yet to come!